Mr. and Mrs. Haines

Mr. and Mrs. Haines

Sunday, June 29, 2014

Why Portland?

Everyone's favorite question is Why Portland? Well I said Why Not? Living in New York, you don't hear much about Portland, Oregon. You don't hear much about the west coast in general. But You never really hear about what Oregon is like. And perhaps thats because no one ever goes. Well We gave it a chance and We LOVE IT!!

What's not to love? Sure it's rains more than it does most other places but it's not always a down pour. It's warm 75% of the time here. Temps are cool in the morning and evening with it getting warm during the day. We still get 4 seasons, though Winter is not to big here. Usually it's ice or a few flurries. Oregon is one of the only states that has 4 different terrain within the state. There is prairie like flatlands when you enter into the state from the east. There are mountains with beautiful green trees (which are like no other). There is the city life. And then there is the beach. Here in Portland, we are 10 mins from the center of the city, 30 mins from the mountains, and 2 hrs from the beach. Give or take.

The City of Portland has sooo much to offer. Fun free or low cost things to do. Like the Oregon Zoo the second tuesday of every month it's only $4 entry!! http://www.oregonzoo.org/visit/hours-admission-special-offers. Or the OMSI , Oregon Museum of Science, which has $2 entry every first sunday of every month with each exhibit being discounted to $5 per.


Monday:
- Every Monday Regal Cinemas offers Regal Crown Club members the featured candy for $2 with a paid admission.
- Every Monday is “Monday Movie Madness” at the Academy Theater in SE Portland. Watch any two consecutive movies for $6 ($5 children and seniors).
Tuesday:
- Every Tuesday Baskin-Robbins offers child cone-size scoops of ice cream for just $1 from 6:00pm – close. Check your local store for participation.
- Every Tuesday is Regal Cinemas Value Days. See a movie for just $5. The fine print: only valid at Oregon City’s Hilltop 9, Wilsonville Stadium 9, Tigard Cinemas 11, and Vancouver’s Cinema 99 Stadium 11 & City Center Stadium 12.
- Every Tuesday Regal Cinemas offers Regal Crown Club members a featured sizepopcorn for $2 with a paid admission.
- Every Tuesday is “Two for Tuesdays” at the Academy Theater in SE Portland. Buy one ticket, get one free.
Hillsboro 1st Tuesday Art Walk, concentrated in the downtown core and the Glenn & Viola Walters Cultural Arts Center. 6:00pm – 8:00pm.
First Tuesday Music Series at Lake Oswego Public Library, 7:00pm, free.
- 2nd Tuesdays at the Oregon Zoo admission is just $4 per person (under age 2, free)
OMSI Science Pub, generally the 3rd Tuesday of the month, at McMenamins Mission Theater. 7:00pm, $3 suggested donation.

Wednesday:
- Every Wednesday Yoga NW offers $5 drop in yoga classes all day.
- Every Wednesday the Old Church offers free sack lunch concerts beginning at 12:00pm.
- Every Wednesday until March 2011 Leach Botanical Garden offers Honeybee Happenings, 10:00am – 11:00am. $2 per child.

Thursday:
1st Thursday Portland art galleries. Click here for a walking map.
Last Thursday on Alberta Street; walk the streets along Alberta between 12th and 33rd for performance street art, art vendors, food carts and much more.
Friday:
- First Friday free admission at the Portland Children’s Museum, 4:00pm – 8:00pm.
First Friday Central Eastside Arts District Art Openings, 6:00pm – 9:00pm.
- 4th Fridays free admission at the Portland Art Museum from 5:00pm – 8:00pm. The Museum also offers free admission and special family programming several times a year.

Saturday:
3rd Saturday Family Days at the Oregon Historical Society. Open to the public with special admission rates: up to 2 children (age 18 & under) free with each paid adult admission.
Third Saturday Art & Wine Walk in Historic Downtown McMinnville, 4:00pm – 8:00pm.

This is just to start. There are many theaters that serve alcohol. Who doesn't love to watch a movie and enjoy a nice cold one? There is so much to explore in Portland. I haven't even begun. There is always something to do and most the time it's either free or really low cost. 
I love living in the GREAT NORTHWEST!!


Friday, June 27, 2014

With all said: HOW TO BE A POLITE WEDDING GUEST: The Do's and Don'ts

I have to say, going through my own wedding now, that People today do NOT understand proper etiquette especially when it comes to weddings!

So here I am writing my own guide to how to be a polite wedding guest!

1. RVSP : 

If there's anything that gets on brides and grooms' nerves before the wedding, it's guests failing to RSVP in a timely manner. "RSVP as soon as humanly possible," Naylor advised. "Within a couple of weeks, send it back, even if the deadline is far off. It's just good manners," and it's essential to determining how much the wedding will cost. "There is so much expense to planning, and most of that expense is dictated by the numbers on the guest list," Post added.
RSVP is French for “please respond” (répondez s’il vous plaît). Your most important obligation as a guest is to respond to the invitation immediately, especially if you are unable to attend. At the very least, it allows your host and hostess enough time to give an accurate count to the caterer. There is usually a card to return with your reply. If not, you may write a formal reply or a note indicating your intention.
2. If you were invited to the ceremony, don't just show up for the reception.
"The ceremony is the most important part," said Naylor, adding that guests should make all efforts to attend. Even when the invitation bears those three little words, "full Catholic Mass," it’s in poor taste to show up to the open bar without first attending the main event.
Also, If you are just attending the one or the other, Please put so on your RSVP so that the bride and groom can calculate for that. 


3.  Arrive at the ceremony on time.
Leave plenty of time to get to the wedding itself -- even enough time to get lost on the way.
If you must be late, there's protocol for that, too. Don't think, "I'll slip in while the bride is coming up the aisle. No," Post said. "If you're really late, stand in the back or slip quietly into a back pew or row once the processional is completely finished."
4. Send a gift, even if you can't attend.
Etiquette dictates that if you were invited, you owe the couple a gift, even if you can't make it to the wedding. "People lose friends over this," Post said. "I wouldn't be doing my job if I didn't remind people to take care of this: one invitation to a wedding ceremony equals a wedding gift."
If you are invited to the ceremony and/or reception, you should send a gift, whether you are attending or not. Generally, gifts are sent to the bride in advance of the wedding. In some localities, gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. If you hear from family that the couple would prefer a charitable donation—as in the case of an older couple or an encore wedding—please respect their wishes. If you receive an announcement after the wedding has taken place, you may send a gift if you wish, but you have no obligation to do so. It is nice to acknowledge the announcement with a card or a note expressing your best wishes.


5. Sit at your assigned table
"There's a lot of thought that goes into these seating arrangements," Post said. Yes, the bride and groom actually spent time thinking about the various relationships their guests have to one another, and there could be a very good reason the cute guy you want to sit next to is at the other end of the room. Maybe his crazy ex-girlfriend will cause a scene and take you out for flirting with him. Who knows? Only the bride and groom, so don't mess with the seating.
6. Bring an appropriate guest (if you have actually been invited with a guest, that is -- but we'll get to that in the Don'ts).
If you have a sulky boyfriend who will keep you in the corner all night, or one with an unpredictable temper after too many Jack and Cokes, leave him at home.

Respect your invitation.

Do not ask your host or hostess if you can bring a date or your children. The invitation will be addressed to the people invited. If you may bring a guest, your invitation will read “Mr. John Phelps and guest.” If your children are invited, they will either receive their own personal invitations or their names will be listed under yours on the envelope. This is not the time to question your host’s decision, to argue or to beg for an exception. And, please, do not add their names to a reply card or show up with them anyway!

7. If you weren't invited with a guest, don't show up with one.

Do not pencil your significant other's name onto the RSVP card, and do not call and ask the bride for a +1. "It is just beyond not okay," Post said, adding that it's one of the top ten complaints she gets from couples. "Once the bride and groom have come to their decision, it is what it is. Asking them to change is disrespectful, and it puts them in an awkward position."
The only exceptions, according to Post, are if you're married, engaged or cohabitating. In that case, modern day etiquette says the bride should have included your romantic other in the first place, and you can very diplomatically and politely broach the conversation with her.
8. Yes, the "no bringing uninvited guests" rule includes your kids.
"People think 'Oh this wedding would be great chance for everyone to meet my new baby! Or to see my kids!' No, just don’t bring an uninvited child." Naylor said. The couple may not have the space and the budget, or they may just prefer not to have children present; they are allowed to have an adults-only wedding.
9. Don't leave before the cake is cut.
It's an old rule, but Post says there's a good reason for it: "It's considered a quiet sign to elderly guests that it's okay to leave," she explained. That’s when it's acceptable for you to depart as well.
10. Do Sign the Guestbook
It might be cheesy, but at the end of the day, the wedding day can be a bit blurry for the groom and bride. They want to remember everyone who came so take a min and add your name. Whether it's just your signature or they have some new age guestbook idea like thumbprints, just do it! 
11. Do remember your favor! 
Whether it's a yummy treat or a handmade item, the couple put a lot of time and effort and money into getting and/or making something memorable for you to take with you from their wedding. Doesn't matter what you do with it afterwards, just don't leave it for them to pack up. 

Most of the above I got from here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/06/17/wedding-etiquette-the-dos_n_879354.html ... and Emily Post. I did add a few tidbits and I also left out a few because I don't agree with them or felt they were unimportant. I was more the anxious, and still am to see everyone's pictures!! 

WHEN IN DOUBT, do some research when receiving a wedding invite. Is it really worth it to be disrespectful to someone, even if you don't think you are? Personally I would want to be as polite as possible. 

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Wow.. It's been Awhile

Awhile doesn't even touch it... Well I guess when you work non stop, and clean non stop, and have no internet at home then it gets tough to get on here. Hopefully, by september we will have at least internet. It's been over 5 years since we have had cable. And Collin wants it back. If I cut back my hours I would enjoy cable too. Nothing fancy just a few of our fav channels.

So An Update into the World of Courtney and Collin. Collin is working for Uhaul. He now works Mon-Fri 9am-5pm usually. Though thankfully now that it's summer, he can pick up a few extra hours here and there if they let him. I am working full time in private care for a gentleman in his 50's with ALS, Lou Gehrig's Disease. I enjoy my work. Currently I work 53 hours in 5 days. It's grueling and exhausting but rewarding work. I am hoping by the end of summer I can cut back my hours.

 ALS, Lou Gehrig's Disease is : Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS), often referred to as "Lou Gehrig's Disease," is a progressive neurodegenerative disease that affects nerve cells in the brain and the spinal cord. Motor neurons reach from the brain to the spinal cord and from the spinal cord to the muscles throughout the body. The progressive degeneration of the motor neurons in ALS eventually leads to their death. When the motor neurons die, the ability of the brain to initiate and control muscle movement is lost. With voluntary muscle action progressively affected, patients in the later stages of the disease may become totally paralyzed.

A-myo-trophic comes from the Greek language. "A" means no or negative. "Myo" refers to muscle, and "Trophic" means nourishment–"No muscle nourishment." When a muscle has no nourishment, it "atrophies" or wastes away. "Lateral" identifies the areas in a person's spinal cord where portions of the nerve cells that signal and control the muscles are located. As this area degenerates it leads to scarring or hardening ("sclerosis") in the region.
As motor neurons degenerate, they can no longer send impulses to the muscle fibers that normally result in muscle movement. Early symptoms of ALS often include increasing muscle weakness, especially involving the arms and legs, speech, swallowing or breathing. When muscles no longer receive the messages from the motor neurons that they require to function, the muscles begin to atrophy (become smaller). Limbs begin to look "thinner" as muscle tissue atrophies.
While there is not a cure or treatment today that halts or reverses ALS, there is one FDA approved drug, riluzole, that modestly slows the progression of ALS as well as several other drugs in clinical trials that hold promise.
Importantly, there are significant devices and therapies that can manage the symptoms of ALS that help people maintain as much independence as possible and prolong survival. It is important to remember that ALS is a quite variable disease; no two people will have the same journey or experiences.  There are medically documented cases of people in whom ALS ‘burns out,’ stops progressing or progresses at a very slow rate.

My client is an engineer. He used to work for Intel. He is very very very smart and has every use of his brain but no longer can speak. He uses a trach to breath, a computer and/or eye chart to communicate, and other devices for other things. He has some control of certain parts of his body. Normally, when diagnosed (which usually happens mid life around 30's-50's.) you have 2-5 years before you loose your ability to breath on your own. This is when and where a person diagnosed either dies or decides to prolong life using a trach: 
A tracheostomy is a surgical procedure to create an opening through the neck into the trachea (windpipe). A tube is usually placed through this opening to provide an airway and to remove secretions from the lungs. This tube is called a tracheostomy tube or trach tube.

Onto other things, Po-Po (pronounced Paw-Paw), or Miss kitty or pretty kitty, is doing well. She has had some issues diet wise but we have FINALLY found a dry food she likes. In the past month she has only thrown up once! We are looking into finding the perfect wet food as well. I found this awesome pet store on Mississippi Ave here in portland. They have been most helpful! 
Our BIGGEST NEWS is that we finally tied the knot!! As if you didn't already know. But in case you missed it, Yup COLLIN AND I are Officially Mr. and Mrs. Haines! Now I just need to make my name change official and get a Oregon license and change my social security card ( and finally have a legal S.S. card again... my mom laminated mine and ross's when we were like 17 cause she was afraid we would ruin them, except she didn't read the back saying that by laminating them, they were void. Only had an issue a few times but thankfully I've had my passport since I was young), among other things! I can't wait. I have waited so long for us to be official. If you read the table info at each table, you have known that since we dated in high school, I always knew Collin was the one. He was ready to propose back then, but as Rev. Grahm put it "I had other things to do first". So we went our separate ways and didn't talk for 5 long years. And then out of the blue, Collin myspace messaged me. And I said what the heck. So we talked and talked and talked and come thanksgiving of '08 we were dating again. I knew within a year that this was it. He was most definitely the one and I'm not letting him get away but we both had our issues to work out. And it was a rough road for awhile. But we came together and learned how to really talk to each other about our issues. And finally after 4 years of dating, Collin was ready to pop the question. Another 2 years later here we are! Whew. 
 I am sooo happy for everyone who helped. My mom who put everything she had into this wedding. My dad for everything he has done. My wedding Consultant who was awesome and was able to get me the wedding of my dreams.  Dr. Pastor Robert Grahm, who made our wedding ceremony mean so much more than just an average wedding and put a nice personal spin on it. My wonderful and amazing Maid of honor and sister in law, Amelia and my brother Ross. Without the two of them this day wouldn't have been what is was. I thank you all!
I am so happy Collin and I decided to say our own vows along with everything else. It gave our vows so much more meaning. I cried because Collin was crying and because I was so happy to finally be united as 1. But when I went to say my vows to him, the emotions of all the years leading up to that moment came all at once and I had such a hard time getting out the words. Perhaps, I stole a few lines from this movie and that, but Every word held true meaning to me and our relationship, what collin means to me and what our relationship is. I wouldn't trade the feeling I had that day, or the feelings I get when I remember that day. I will treasure those moments and those feelings forever. Collin is my true best friend. I can share anything with him and vice versa. I love you so much babe!
Anyways, this is long enough I think and pretty much sums up our life at this point. With the wedding over, now we can truly concentrate on getting both our feet on the ground out here in portland, Or.